Did you have another deal with this ebayer? 
Because the auction showed "reserve not met"?

And so...you can't really tell ebay about it if
you later reached a deal.  As stated on ebay "a
Reserve Auction in which the reserve price was not
met. Therefore, there is no transaction between
the seller and the high bidder. Since there is
 no transaction, this item is not eligiblefor eBay
services that protect buyers and sellers, such as
transactional feedback, escrow or insurance. Those
services are
 available only for items listed, bought and sold
on eBay in compliance with our guidelines and
policies. "