> Ok, you want to know how I deal with something
> like that ? I simply don't put myself in such
> a situation.
I admire that, and I'm glad that for you, it is not
something that you have ever had trouble with.
> Once I put a firm order for something, I just stick
> to it even if I don't want the goods anymore: It's
> not the problem of the dealer neither the one of
> anybody else. It's my own problem and it's to me
> to handle it.
You are absolutely right, it is up to me to handle it.
All I wanted was some advice from people who may have
had similar situations.
> If you posted your message because you wanted to
> resell the cel to someone else then why don't you
> put a picture of it or at least say what cel it
> was. Else, it's totaly useless.
I disagree. I never said my post was intending to resell.
I wanted advice and similar experience, which I have got
in abundance and I sincerely thank everyone who has
responded, including you. Especially you, for allowing
the forum you host to continue, although you do not agree
with some of the opinions expressed.
In this case, however, I must ask whether I need
clarification about the purpose of this forum. Is
it only for selling/buying advertisements? Or is it
a forum for people to share experiences, opinions,
and advice? If the latter, I don't think it's useless
at all. However, if it's the former, please state as much
and I will stop using the forum.
> But if you posted your message because you want
> that many people answer you by saying "oh, you poor...
> Stephen please help her", then you shouldn't count
> on me :
That was not my intent. I may have made a mistake,
and a particularly childish one at that, but I
am not a child. I regret that you have come to know
me only in terms of my weakness and not in terms of
my strengths or general character.
Regardless of whether the particular matter is private,
and of course it is, I thought the general substance of
the affair was likely the sort of thing that people would
have opinions on and experience with.
I have said repeatedly that I do not expect any kind
words on the matter at all; since I know that what
I did was simply dumb. Nor do I have any intention of
going back on my promise. If the payment must be made,
it will be made. If there is some way I can reverse it,
I will do so. But I wasn't sure how to go about dealing
with the situation, both in terms of the dealer and in
terms of myself, knowing what steps to take, and thus
I posted.
But although I do not expect kind words, you have
already made your point that you think I should not do
a thing. I thank you for your advice. If your future
words are no longer advice and are limited to rubbing in
what a dunce I've been, is it too much for me to ask you
to keep them to yourself? I realize this is lacking in
the usual deference expected in speaking to a forum
operator, but at this point I believe they're somewhat
warranted. Remember please that you are speaking to
a human being with feelings who is aware of her mistake.
I will not argue if my posting privileges here are
revoked; I would rather this than be insulted. And I feel
that while your remarks so far have not been insults, they
may be heading in that direction.
I apologize and will take up no more of your time.
Sincerely,
Jennifer A. Wand |
